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Last May, a guy followed my link from this message board to my website and instant messaged me on AIM, saying a lot of really crude things. Here is a transcript of our conversation (edited to remove the most offensive words) - I posted it right after it happened because I have pretty thick skin, I wasn't really concerned about the guy, and it's pretty funny. His screen name was CaptainFarrell4. At that time, I had his IP address and knew that his internet service provider was SBC Global. I forgot all about the incident after a week or so, thinking it was no big deal. I changed web hosts in December, and didn't bother to keep the old info I had about him.

In the last 3 months, I've been contacted by three different girls who found my website by googling this guy's screen name after he harassed them. Two of the girls were 14 years old and very, very scared. The guy had a lot of personal information about them, which I'm guessing he was getting from MySpace. I helped both girls remove the different sites where they had posted way too much personal info about themselves, and I advised both of them to talk to their parents. The guy had made threats to both of them, that he was going to come to their houses and schools and that sort of thing. Both girls told me they were going to talk to their parents and see if involving the authorities was necessary. While I realize that girls that young should have more supervision on the internet, should not have the ability to post unlimited info about themselves on MySpace, etc., they shouldn't have to pay for their mistake by living in fear because of some jerk like this.

This morning, I got another email from a different girl with the same story and I decided I'd ask you guys for help. Because I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that this guy found my link on Hoseheads message board. I followed his trail in my web stats. He may not be a regular poster, maybe just some random guy that happened to be reading the day that we were talking about Danica Patrick and how I dyed my hair pink last May, but maybe. I figured it is worth a shot.

So please, if you recognize the AIM screenname CaptainFarrell4 as one of your kids, one of your buddies, whatever - please let me know or talk to the guy yourself. When it first happened to me, I laughed it off and thought the guy was a loser and let it go. If I had any idea then that the guy was/is harassing and threatening young girls like he is, I would have taken it more seriously and held onto the IP address and that sort of thing. I'm not at all concerned for my own safety - I would just like to put a stop to this guy's unnecessary behavior.

Parents, please use this story as another example of why you should keep tabs on your kid's internet usage. Google your child's name and make sure he or she hasn't posted their real info on any sites. Check out their MySpace pages and the pages of all of their friends. Many many of my friends claim their kids don't use MySpace when they are really just very good at hiding it.

Thanks all!

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Duchess,

Just a thought...since you have the person's IM name and a transcript of what he said to you, could you contact AOL with this story to see if they can help?

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I thought of that, and I told the girls to try that route - but I don't think they could do anything with *my* story. He didn't have any personal info about me, he didn't make any threats against me, and I was 25 years-old at the time. He really didn't do anything wrong when talking to me, other than being a disgusting jerk. I will do some research though. Even if they banned his name, I imagine that he'd just get a new one. I'm surprised he hasn't already. I'm really hoping that somebody here knows him.

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Dammit Mikie, you better start behaving!

Involve the authorities. Dont wait.

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I have clicked over to your website before, but I'm not the pervert. I just wanted to say Kudos for helping the young girls he also hasseled.

We do not like this perversion attached to this sport! If I knew who it was, I'd offer him up to you on a silver platter. Of course after I did a little "cutting".

"...and I advised both of them to talk to their parents."

Part of the problem, right there. Having to tell some kid to talk to their Mom and Dad?

If Mom and Dad were involved with what their kid does on the "Net"-How much predatory behavior would be curbed at the source? Time and time again, you read how some parent is like upset that some filthy web site is out there or exchange of nasty conversations went down on the computer in the Daughter's room when parents are elsewhere or no where to be found.

MySpace, in my opinion is nothing more that a cess pool of people starved for attention. It's a cyber neon sign that says "Hey-Look at Me. I wanna be important for no apparent reason." My dear little (30 something) Sister, who is is my Best Friend not only in Sprint Car Racing, but life itself and I think her My Space page is just a bunch of silly stupid crap. Hell, some of you posting here here are pictured on there acting like drunken sailors at a Thai Whore House with a fistfull of $50s. So don't say behavior is shocking when there is photo evidence of you reeacting scenes from 'Caligula'.

How hard is it to sit next to your kid and get involved by "Surfing the Net" together?

Plenty of resources out there to help the Parent(s). Seems like they choose the easy way out and only get directly involved when something goes down badly, then it's someone else's fault.

Was the whole Imus thing really that big of a deal? Do you fear the opinion of a middle aged man-or a highly motivated and armed kid with an agenda to kill? Where is Sharpton now?

Obvously you were never a teenager. Most teenager hide TONS of stuff from their parents. I speak to alot of parents who have no idea how to check what their kids are doing. Its not always a case of the parents not paying attention, its not knowing how to see what they are up too. Plus, kids hide stuff. this is nothing new and has been going on for years.

Oh and by the way- sometimes it is hard to sit with your kid and surf- particulary if you work 2 jobs and have to do all the other chores that a household needs. This is not an excuse- but a reason that causes alot of parents to allow thier children possibly more access to the internet than they can handle.

I hope the punk is found out and punished. He probably suffers from short d*ck disease anyway.

I never hid stuff from my parents - but my parents were (surprise, surprise) rather atypical and we have a different sort of relationship. My mother was the first person I told about *everything*, still is. But yes, teenagers are great at hiding things and sneaking around. And sitting with them and monitoring their internet usage is only going to work at home. You wouldn't believe the stuff kids can get away with at school, the public library, friends' houses, etc. Having an open and trusting relationship with your kids is much more valuable than trying to play the jailer. My mom never snooped through my stuff and I never hid anything. When she was worried, we'd sit down and talk about it. When I did something wrong, I flat-out told her. I never understood why my friends hated their parents until I got older and realized just how different (and awesome) my parents are.

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I didnt mean you DuchessJane- I was referring to the post above mine.

I have told my son- it is better to tell me now- and the whole truth than for me to find out later- and I WILL find out later!!- He usually follows that pretty well.

Alot of parents did not grow up in a world so easily acessable thru the internet, so its alot harder to understand and work with.

I am glad you have a good relationship with your folks. Its oneof the most inportant things in the world to have~~

that sort of relationship is admirable Jane. Another place to look for that guy is pogo and other gaming sites. You wouldn't believe how many pervs I've seen trying to hit on young ladies while playin dominoes or spades. Simply twisted.

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Hi Jane. i always knew you are a great person, the only advise i would give is to contact the police.this guy is doing this on purpose most larger police departments have tech. investigation units. that guy needs to be put away!

Jane:

I sympathise with you! I did a yahoo.com search for his nick, only brought up stuff related to you EXCEPT one site that has the following address: http://forum.alcoholreport.com/t4108/#post128477

Same exact user name on a alcoholics message board. Typical....

http://ginfiend.com/xanga/november2003.html is another web site that sounds like it's one and the same (same username and relates to alcoholism). I'm guessing that whomever this is... is one truly sick individual.

This is a blog with some user info and THIS guy says he was born in '88 (if that's true) he'd be 19. http://www.stonecoldsweat.proboards102.com/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=captainfarrell

Here is a site that has the same nick, without the "4" on a Worchester, Massachusettes sex swingers website http://www.swappernet.com/swapperstates.aspx?State=MA&City=WORCESTER WARNING...THIS SITE HAS EXPLICIT INFORMATION, NOT FOR CHILDREN!!!!

This sound like anyone on here?

Hope this helps in some small way...

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"Off topic?"

The way it's been on here the past couple months I expected "off topic" to be a racing post

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